Yes, This is the counterpart of my post a few weeks back, “5 facts about girls”. It took me a while to create a follow-up on that post because it is really hard to figure out boys especially if you are a girl. 🙂 Anyway so I decided to just decided to take my time and observe until I can actually come up with my own hypotheis or whatever you want to call it. Again, I am not claiming that everything written here is correct. These are just my humbled thoughts.
So without further a do. Here it is.
1. Boys love to date naughty girls for fun but they date good girls for love.
Well. I think this is self-explanatory.
2. Boys never really like girls with heavy make-up on. They dig our no make-up look.
Yes. Boys like girls who look neat and presentable but they don’t really like girls who look like they will be accepting an acting hoour every single moment of the day. It is okay to put on a little make-up every once in a while. But if you’re everyday look consists of putting layers of foundation in your face, the concealer, then powder, then add eye shadow, and eve liner, eye brow liner, mascara, blush on, lipstick, and lip gloss then that’ something you’d have to think twice about. You don’t want your bf or boy-friends to not be able to recognize you when they surprise you in your house and see your no-make-up look. Unless, you also have the heavy make-up on at home.
3. Boys’s eyes may glance for a few seconds sexy girls but there will always be this girl that he just can’t stop staring at.
As the saying goes “Boys will be boys.” Yes, Physical attributes can really draw the attention of the guys but when eventually found someone who they love staring at then there will be a few moments that they will glance but they will never stare because the already have their eyes set on someone else.
4. Boys love spending time with the girls they love but they also need their Boys night out.
Ofcourse, Every guy loves to spend time with their gf or special someone but there will always be a time that they will crave to hang out with his gang. Let him do so! Let them have their testosterone-fest! Don’t worry.
5. Guys like to make the first move but they don’t mind if girls make the first move.
Yes I think that though we are already in the year 2012, still, most guys are the ones who are doing the first move. However, I think guys in our time no longer care if they made the first move or not. As long as you two have chemistry, then he woudn’t mind!
The end. 🙂 Hope to hear from ya!
Disclaimer: I think I already mentioned this in my previous entries in case I haven’t… Let me just clarify. I am not expert ony guys and relationship and I am not even expert on my job so I am not saying that everything written here is scientifically-proven. These are just figments of my mind’s never ending battle to think and analyze the words I hear, the notes I see, and the stories that were relayed to me. I am hoping that this post help those who are experiencing this kind of situation. 🙂
You see I have been hearing and reading about guys who are always STUCK in the FRIEND ZONE. For those of you who aren’t aware of what the FRIEND ZONE means…..
It is some kind of a untangible friendship boundary of some sort that some guys really wanted to cross but they cannot. It happens when a guy likes a girl that he is good friends with and he get stuck up with this friendship wall that he cannot even tell her how he feels and the girl doesn’t even have a clue that he likes her. To her, he is just a good friend that is always there for her and any idea of romance does not even cross her mind. She just never really thinks of him in a romantic way and the guy pretends that he doesn’t think of her in that way as well, but he is only fooling himself. He just stays friends with her though he wanted to be more than that, hence, the friend zone.
In short, the guys in the friend zone are always the “GOOD GUY FRIENDS” but never the ones that the girls fall for.
Here are the reasons that I can think of why guys in the FRIEND ZONE remains in the FRIEND ZONE:
1. You are still in the friend zone because…
YOU ARE TOO AFRAID TO TAKE CHANCES!
Yes. You are too scared that you won’t get the response that you are expecting so you’d rather stay back and watch other guys make their way to her heart. You are always afraid that saying what you really feel because it may ruin your friendship. Hello! Yes, if she doesn’t feel the same way then it might cause a little awkwardness but if you guys are really friends then you guys will find a way back to being better friends. You just have to accept the fact that she just thinks of you as a friend and nothing more. And eventually let your feelings go and then strengthen the friendship even more. But if she likes you back then BINGO!
2. You are still in the FRIEND ZONE because…
YOU TREAT HER LIKE SHE’S ONE OF YOUR GUY FRIENDS.
Just because you want to look cool and you don’t wanther to figure out that you like her, you try your best to treat her like she is one of your bros. Calling her dude, bro, homey, and what not. Telling her about this imaginary girl that you’ve been crushing on. Teaching her the fist pump or secret handshake and all other guys stuff that you do with your boys.
Guess what??? You sure succeeded in hiding your feelings but you also succeeded in helping her cross you out in her romantic meter. Good Job!
3. You are still in the friend zone because…
YOU ALWAYS MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE FOR HER!
One call and you’ll immediately drop everything that you are doing just to attend to whatever it is that she needs. She needs someone to help her move the furnitures in her house, you’ll be there. She needs someone to look after her dog, you’ll take care of her dog. She’s having trouble with her project, you’ll volunteer to help her out… Normally, that is a good thing…. IF YOU GUYS ARE ALREADY TOGETHER. But since you guys are not together yet, you should try be a good friend sometimes learn to say no or learn how to say yes without sounding too enthusiatic about it. 🙂 In that way, you seem a little mysterious and a little unpredictable and you’ll raise her interest. REMEMBER THE GOAL IS TO MAKE YOU “HER GUY” first then be her “GO-TO GUY”. Not the other way around. 🙂
4. You are still in the friend zone because…
YOU EVEN TRY TO SET HER UP WITH ANOTHER GUY THOUGH YOUR INSTINCTS ARE TELLING YOU NOT TO.
Being a good friend that you always are, you even try setting her up with your freind that she likes or with a friend of yours who likes her. That is just totally BAT SHIT CRAZY, MEN! That’s a very uncomfortable thing to do so never everdo that! And if you already did then please do not repeat it. Again, Learn how to say no! If you can’t take the sight of her in some other guy’s arms then do not ever try to make that possible!
***There you go! I hope that helps.
In summary, to get yourself out of the FRIEND ZONE!
1. Be a MAN!
2. Summon up all the courage in the world and tell her how you feel. If she says yes then good. If she says no, then even better because now you know that you being in the friend zone is not your fault, that means she just really wants you to there and then just be friend. You will soon find someone who is willing to be your friend and much more willing to be your lover. 🙂
3. If you confess and it didn’t work out, Don’t lose hope. 🙂
I’m thinking about taking a few classes again…
I got my college degree in Nursing last 2009 and its 2012 already but I still haven’t put it to good use.
I’m thinking maybe I may never be able to use it at all.
Coming from a single pay-check household, it was almost a miracle that my mom was able to send me and my sister to college, considering we were living off her Public School teacher salary. Taking up nursing was never my idea, it was my mom’s. She thought it was the quickest way for me to land a job and probable work abroad.
I’m pretty sure most parents who asked their kids to take up nursing have the same reasons in mind.
But it didn’t worked out that way, Nurses here in the Philippines are over-flowing in numbers but the jobs available couldn’t even accomodate 10% of the population. Its hard to find a job for nurses, there was even a point when the hospitals are charging a fee for nurses who wants to work or be trained in their institution! Nurses who joined this program are called “VOLUNTEER NURSES/ TRAINEE NURSES.”
IMAGINE PAYING IN ORDER FOR YOU TO WORK? That’s just crazy, isn’t?
It went on for a few years until the government put a stop to it. But still is still as bad as it was. Although NOW, you don’t have to pay a joining fee or training fee, but still you get to work full time with just PHP100-250 (That’s US$ 2.5-5 per day) and some don’t even get paid. Some are affiliated for free and received nothing at all in return, not even benefits like health insurance, or meal allowances.
For those who were able to land a real nursing job or the so called “STAFF NURSE ITEM”, they are really lucky. Some of them VOLUNTEERED or were TRAINEE NURSES FOR MONTHS and even OVER a year until their respective hospitals decided to absorbed them as their own full-pledge staff nurses. SOME REALLY DESERVING TOPNOTCHERS got hired right on the spot. and JUST LIKE IN A LOT OF CASES, SOME KNOWS Someone who can pull the strings for them and get them an item. No matter how they got their own STAFF NURSE ITEM, it doesn’t matter, Being a nurse is already an honor. NURSING is a tough work and what makes it even tougher is that you are sacrificing a lot, you are over worked but you are under paid and under appreciated.
From what I have heard from my friends who are still pursuing nursing as a career, the salary of aRegular PRIVATE HOSPITALSTAFF NURSE ranges from PHP 9,000- 15,000 per month (That’s around US$200-350 per month )depending on the hospital that your affilated with. As for the GOVERNMENT STAFF NURSES it ranges from PHP 18,000-25,000 (Around US$ 400-550 per month), for the government nurses, it’s not a bad range but ofcourse the nurse-patient ratio is definitely higher and much heavier workload.
Some people asked me why I haven’t pursued nursing as a career. They said if I volunteered my service for a year then maybe I’d get a staff nurse item. And yeah, they are probably right, but I still chose not to. Mostly because I don’t want to remain a burden for my mom. I mean, she’s the one who’s gonna suffer if I volunteered. Imagine, She’ll have to give me money for the training fee and money for my transportation and meal expenses during the entire training/volunteering period. I have seen the things that she sacrficed in order for me to finish school and get my license. I think she’d sacrifice enough and I thought that now that I graduated its up to me to return the favor.
So I worked in non-nursing related industries in order to earn for myself and help out my mom.
I think I was able to that but I still don’t fill fulfilled. Like I needed to do something different with my life, I wanted to touch other people’s lives, be an inspiration and to just be able to help, and I could have done all that as a nurse but I hadn’t had the chance so now I’m thinking maybe I’d get a teaching certification.
Yes, I’m considering teaching as my new dream and in order for me to attain that I should enroll myself in the PROFESSIONAL TEACHING CERTIFICATION PROGRAM. The good thing about this program is that I can take it online and I can attend classroom discussion once a week, which means I can still work while studying. I’ve actually been thinking about it for almost a year but still haven’t enrolled because I want to be absolutely positive about it and waiting for my funds to be completed….
The good news is, 2-3 months from now I think I can be able to come up with the full payment for 1 semester and for the modules and other expenses.. I’m actually pretty excited about it, though it may empty my pocket, its my investment for my personal growth. 🙂
So do you guys think I should do it? Do you think I should get that teaching certification?
Or do you guys think I should just stick to the job I have now?
I need your opinions! 🙂
I know I said that I’ll post my weekly SBT “SHOULD BE TOGETHER” couple but lately I’ve been kinda busy so I haven’t posted for quite some time now. So Today I’m BACK!!!!!!!!!!! With my new SBT couple of the week!!!
Are you guys excited??? MY SBT COUPLE IS NONE OTHER THAN…..
REESE WITHERSPOON and RYAN PHILIPPE. ❤
No offense to Reese Witherspoon’s new husband, But I really thought that REESE and RYAN’s marriage would last a lifetime.
I first saw this couple way back 1999, the CRUEL INTENTIONS days as I call it. I think at that time, the two blondies are already dating. I must admit, I had a thing for Ryan. There’s just something about him that makes me want to see more of him, in a wholesome kind of way, just to be clear. He has this bad-ass, curly unkempt hair going-on that works wonders for him, In short, He is oozing with sex appeal. Reese,on the other hand, who can not love her, she has this perky vobe and a smile that can light up the whole room. Its no wonder it was love at first sight for this two. 🙂 I mean, I seems like they are made for each other. They met when the were really young, I think they were on their early 20’s and they got marrieda few years after that.They were a match made in heaven. They were even blessed with 2 wonderful kids. I really wonder what went wrong?
They were so perfect. I know these two have moved on, but I think they will always have a place in their hearts for each other, not only because they have kids together, but also because they are a huge part of each others’ lives and no one can ever change that.
So there you go Folks, SBT #2 Reese and Ryan! 🙂 What are your thoughts?
Yesterday was my day-off. So I did what I really do best when I don’t have any important things to do:
I bummed around the house and watch as many movies as I can. I ran out of movies to watch so I decided to watch something that I already seen a few years back ———— SYDNEY WHITE!
For those of you who have no idea what this movie is, It’s kinda a modern version of SNOW WHITE.
Sydney White (Amanda Bynes) is an 18-year old girl who is raised by her dad. Her mom died when she was 9 and her dad with the help of his construction worker friends were the ones that was there for her. She goes to college and was supposed to pledge to her Mom’s old sorority but then things didn’t turn out as she planned and she ended up living with 7 interesting dorks who are currently on the verge of losing their house. Subsequently, because of her all-natural, no false pretenses attitude, the most popular guy on campus, Tyler Prince (Matt Long) fell in love with her much to the dismay of the reighning queen bee greek president Rachel Witchburn (Sara Paxton).
But that’s not point of this blog entry.
I’m writing this because I’m curious, DOES THAT KIND OF STUFF HAPPEN IN REAL LIFE?
Can a guy really fall for a girl who doesn’t fit in? Who doesn’t act gracefully and who doesn’t know the right things to say? Do guys like that reslly fall for a girl who has a great personality and a big heart?
Guys are pretty complicated beings. I’m sure all guys are saying the same thing about girls. We were never an expert on each other.
So where can we find a guy who just doesn’t give damn about how you look and dress? Where can we find someone who doesn’t care that you say all the wrong things in all the wrong times when you are with him? Where can we find someone who can see the real us and doesn’t turn his back? Where can we find someone who can love us for exactly what we are?
If someone knew the answers to this questions then probably that someone is bombarded by people who wants to find that kind of love. But unfortunately, no one knew the answer to this questions. I guess we need to find the answers within ourselves.
Times like this, I wished my life will be like a movie. When a guy just shows up out nowhere in my time of despair and he’ll just take me away from it all. Oh no! IT’s OFFICIAL! I’m definitely a HOPELESS ROMANTIC! Or MAYBE HOPELESS alone.
But seriously, I wished to get the happy ending that I’ve been dreaming and praying about. And I hope someday, I would stop writing about how I am envious of the things that I see in films, and start writing about how I met my true love.. But since my TRUE LOVE is MIA. then you guys are stuck with my random rants and I’m stuck with my thoughts. 🙂