Yes, This is the counterpart of my post a few weeks back, “5 facts about girls”. It took me a while to create a follow-up on that post because it is really hard to figure out boys especially if you are a girl. 🙂 Anyway so I decided to just decided to take my time and observe until I can actually come up with my own hypotheis or whatever you want to call it. Again, I am not claiming that everything written here is correct. These are just my humbled thoughts.
So without further a do. Here it is.
1. Boys love to date naughty girls for fun but they date good girls for love.
Well. I think this is self-explanatory.
2. Boys never really like girls with heavy make-up on. They dig our no make-up look.
Yes. Boys like girls who look neat and presentable but they don’t really like girls who look like they will be accepting an acting hoour every single moment of the day. It is okay to put on a little make-up every once in a while. But if you’re everyday look consists of putting layers of foundation in your face, the concealer, then powder, then add eye shadow, and eve liner, eye brow liner, mascara, blush on, lipstick, and lip gloss then that’ something you’d have to think twice about. You don’t want your bf or boy-friends to not be able to recognize you when they surprise you in your house and see your no-make-up look. Unless, you also have the heavy make-up on at home.
3. Boys’s eyes may glance for a few seconds sexy girls but there will always be this girl that he just can’t stop staring at.
As the saying goes “Boys will be boys.” Yes, Physical attributes can really draw the attention of the guys but when eventually found someone who they love staring at then there will be a few moments that they will glance but they will never stare because the already have their eyes set on someone else.
4. Boys love spending time with the girls they love but they also need their Boys night out.
Ofcourse, Every guy loves to spend time with their gf or special someone but there will always be a time that they will crave to hang out with his gang. Let him do so! Let them have their testosterone-fest! Don’t worry.
5. Guys like to make the first move but they don’t mind if girls make the first move.
Yes I think that though we are already in the year 2012, still, most guys are the ones who are doing the first move. However, I think guys in our time no longer care if they made the first move or not. As long as you two have chemistry, then he woudn’t mind!
The end. 🙂 Hope to hear from ya!
Disclaimer: I think I already mentioned this in my previous entries in case I haven’t… Let me just clarify. I am not expert ony guys and relationship and I am not even expert on my job so I am not saying that everything written here is scientifically-proven. These are just figments of my mind’s never ending battle to think and analyze the words I hear, the notes I see, and the stories that were relayed to me. I am hoping that this post help those who are experiencing this kind of situation. 🙂
You see I have been hearing and reading about guys who are always STUCK in the FRIEND ZONE. For those of you who aren’t aware of what the FRIEND ZONE means…..
It is some kind of a untangible friendship boundary of some sort that some guys really wanted to cross but they cannot. It happens when a guy likes a girl that he is good friends with and he get stuck up with this friendship wall that he cannot even tell her how he feels and the girl doesn’t even have a clue that he likes her. To her, he is just a good friend that is always there for her and any idea of romance does not even cross her mind. She just never really thinks of him in a romantic way and the guy pretends that he doesn’t think of her in that way as well, but he is only fooling himself. He just stays friends with her though he wanted to be more than that, hence, the friend zone.
In short, the guys in the friend zone are always the “GOOD GUY FRIENDS” but never the ones that the girls fall for.
Here are the reasons that I can think of why guys in the FRIEND ZONE remains in the FRIEND ZONE:
1. You are still in the friend zone because…
YOU ARE TOO AFRAID TO TAKE CHANCES!
Yes. You are too scared that you won’t get the response that you are expecting so you’d rather stay back and watch other guys make their way to her heart. You are always afraid that saying what you really feel because it may ruin your friendship. Hello! Yes, if she doesn’t feel the same way then it might cause a little awkwardness but if you guys are really friends then you guys will find a way back to being better friends. You just have to accept the fact that she just thinks of you as a friend and nothing more. And eventually let your feelings go and then strengthen the friendship even more. But if she likes you back then BINGO!
2. You are still in the FRIEND ZONE because…
YOU TREAT HER LIKE SHE’S ONE OF YOUR GUY FRIENDS.
Just because you want to look cool and you don’t wanther to figure out that you like her, you try your best to treat her like she is one of your bros. Calling her dude, bro, homey, and what not. Telling her about this imaginary girl that you’ve been crushing on. Teaching her the fist pump or secret handshake and all other guys stuff that you do with your boys.
Guess what??? You sure succeeded in hiding your feelings but you also succeeded in helping her cross you out in her romantic meter. Good Job!
3. You are still in the friend zone because…
YOU ALWAYS MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE FOR HER!
One call and you’ll immediately drop everything that you are doing just to attend to whatever it is that she needs. She needs someone to help her move the furnitures in her house, you’ll be there. She needs someone to look after her dog, you’ll take care of her dog. She’s having trouble with her project, you’ll volunteer to help her out… Normally, that is a good thing…. IF YOU GUYS ARE ALREADY TOGETHER. But since you guys are not together yet, you should try be a good friend sometimes learn to say no or learn how to say yes without sounding too enthusiatic about it. 🙂 In that way, you seem a little mysterious and a little unpredictable and you’ll raise her interest. REMEMBER THE GOAL IS TO MAKE YOU “HER GUY” first then be her “GO-TO GUY”. Not the other way around. 🙂
4. You are still in the friend zone because…
YOU EVEN TRY TO SET HER UP WITH ANOTHER GUY THOUGH YOUR INSTINCTS ARE TELLING YOU NOT TO.
Being a good friend that you always are, you even try setting her up with your freind that she likes or with a friend of yours who likes her. That is just totally BAT SHIT CRAZY, MEN! That’s a very uncomfortable thing to do so never everdo that! And if you already did then please do not repeat it. Again, Learn how to say no! If you can’t take the sight of her in some other guy’s arms then do not ever try to make that possible!
***There you go! I hope that helps.
In summary, to get yourself out of the FRIEND ZONE!
1. Be a MAN!
2. Summon up all the courage in the world and tell her how you feel. If she says yes then good. If she says no, then even better because now you know that you being in the friend zone is not your fault, that means she just really wants you to there and then just be friend. You will soon find someone who is willing to be your friend and much more willing to be your lover. 🙂
3. If you confess and it didn’t work out, Don’t lose hope. 🙂
I think these are the things that guys shoould know about, if they want to get on a girl’s good side and maybe this will also help guys understand girls more.
1. Girls are sentimental.
That’s a random fact. A girl always likes to remember important things in her life. She also likes to cherish the moments that made her happy and the simple gifts or letters that she received. Like taking her out to see the stars, I’m sure she’ll have that image of you two under the night skies tattoed in her head. Or giving her a handwritten letter, I’m sure she’ll keep that in box and reads it when she misses you. Just give her something that she would love to remember and cherish then I’m sure she’ll be hooked.
2. Girls like hearing compliments.
I mean, who doesn’t? But you know, Girls, no matter, how strong and confident they may seem. They still would want other people to notice and compliment them. It’s not like their waiting on other people’s approval but it is theirway of knowing that they are appreciated. SO If you like a girl, make sure sure you compliment her in all the right ways. Never overcompliment her because she may think that you are insincere. Never undercompliment her because she may think you don’t know her worth. In other words, don’t say anything that you don’t really mean.
3. GIRLS like a guy who treats her well.
I know, most guys think that girls are into bad boys and the good guys are always left in the friends zone. But this isn’t true. Sure, AT one point in Every girl’s life, she may spend her time and energy chasing a bad boy and hoping that she’d be the one to change him. But sooner or later, when she is exhausted and aware that sometimes bad boys are just merely bad boys and there isn’t anything mysterious about it and she can never change him for the better because that’s just how he is, She will snap back to reality and she’ll remember that she deserves a guy who’s willing to do right by her and someone she can definitely rely on. So that’s your cue guys, Bad boys are just short experiments. Good guys are life-long journeys! So try your best to be a good guy. 🙂
4. Girls like a guy who can make her laugh.
Girls would definitely like a guy with a good sense of humor. Someone who can make her laugh. Someone whom she can be silly with. Someone whom she can be herself with. It doesn’t matter if you have bad comic timing or you always throw the punch line wrong a girl know how to appreciate the efforts you give in order to make her laugh.
5. GIRLS who say NO really means No.
Yes. I know most guys think girls like to play hard-to-get and sometimes they really do play hard-to-get. But trust me, you know the difference. If you like a girl says no to you yet still gives you signals then she is playing hard to get, all you have to do is just reachout to her more and be patient with her then you can definitely win her over. But if a girl says no to you and she’s making an effort for you to notice the boundaries and she keeps on turning you down, then she is not pplaying hard-to-get, she simply saying not-gonna-happen. It sucks, I know. But maybe she is just not the girl for you.
I have no scientific proof with regards to this.
This are just my humble thoughts.
If you have anything to add or you have complaints, Please
say it in a nice way. 🙂 Thanks