LIke a lovestruck teenager,
I am holding onto you.
But you don’t even know me,
you never had a clue.
About the love I feel,
Or the dreams I have inside.
You don’t even think about me,
yet you’re always in my mind.
Like a lovestruck teenager,
I’m writing letters everyday.
Though I never had the guts to send ’em to you.
But I keep on writing anyway.
About the everything I feel,
And all the love I want to give.
But you were always with someone else.
And my love, you cannot receive.
Still like a lovestruck teenager,
I am not afraid to let you know.
That your smile is my favorite vision.
and I can never let you go.
Yes, This is the counterpart of my post a few weeks back, “5 facts about girls”. It took me a while to create a follow-up on that post because it is really hard to figure out boys especially if you are a girl. 🙂 Anyway so I decided to just decided to take my time and observe until I can actually come up with my own hypotheis or whatever you want to call it. Again, I am not claiming that everything written here is correct. These are just my humbled thoughts.
So without further a do. Here it is.
1. Boys love to date naughty girls for fun but they date good girls for love.
Well. I think this is self-explanatory.
2. Boys never really like girls with heavy make-up on. They dig our no make-up look.
Yes. Boys like girls who look neat and presentable but they don’t really like girls who look like they will be accepting an acting hoour every single moment of the day. It is okay to put on a little make-up every once in a while. But if you’re everyday look consists of putting layers of foundation in your face, the concealer, then powder, then add eye shadow, and eve liner, eye brow liner, mascara, blush on, lipstick, and lip gloss then that’ something you’d have to think twice about. You don’t want your bf or boy-friends to not be able to recognize you when they surprise you in your house and see your no-make-up look. Unless, you also have the heavy make-up on at home.
3. Boys’s eyes may glance for a few seconds sexy girls but there will always be this girl that he just can’t stop staring at.
As the saying goes “Boys will be boys.” Yes, Physical attributes can really draw the attention of the guys but when eventually found someone who they love staring at then there will be a few moments that they will glance but they will never stare because the already have their eyes set on someone else.
4. Boys love spending time with the girls they love but they also need their Boys night out.
Ofcourse, Every guy loves to spend time with their gf or special someone but there will always be a time that they will crave to hang out with his gang. Let him do so! Let them have their testosterone-fest! Don’t worry.
5. Guys like to make the first move but they don’t mind if girls make the first move.
Yes I think that though we are already in the year 2012, still, most guys are the ones who are doing the first move. However, I think guys in our time no longer care if they made the first move or not. As long as you two have chemistry, then he woudn’t mind!
The end. 🙂 Hope to hear from ya!
Another long deep breath
for a closing argument.
Another awkward silence
in the heated moment.
Afraid to say something wrong.
She said nothing at all.
He’s been waiting for so long.
Her answers are stalled.
He wants to talk about it.
She doesn’t want to argue.
He tried to say what’s in his head.
She believed it was untrue.
Doubt fills up her heart.
He’s slowly drifting away.
He was looking for a reason
for him to even stay.
She just let it all passed by.
She think It’ll be over soon.
He caught another’s eye.
The attention made him swoon.
While she pretended everything will be alright.
though that’s not what her heart and mind tells.
He decided to spend the night,
Not with her but with somebody else.
Disclaimer: I think I already mentioned this in my previous entries in case I haven’t… Let me just clarify. I am not expert ony guys and relationship and I am not even expert on my job so I am not saying that everything written here is scientifically-proven. These are just figments of my mind’s never ending battle to think and analyze the words I hear, the notes I see, and the stories that were relayed to me. I am hoping that this post help those who are experiencing this kind of situation. 🙂
You see I have been hearing and reading about guys who are always STUCK in the FRIEND ZONE. For those of you who aren’t aware of what the FRIEND ZONE means…..
It is some kind of a untangible friendship boundary of some sort that some guys really wanted to cross but they cannot. It happens when a guy likes a girl that he is good friends with and he get stuck up with this friendship wall that he cannot even tell her how he feels and the girl doesn’t even have a clue that he likes her. To her, he is just a good friend that is always there for her and any idea of romance does not even cross her mind. She just never really thinks of him in a romantic way and the guy pretends that he doesn’t think of her in that way as well, but he is only fooling himself. He just stays friends with her though he wanted to be more than that, hence, the friend zone.
In short, the guys in the friend zone are always the “GOOD GUY FRIENDS” but never the ones that the girls fall for.
Here are the reasons that I can think of why guys in the FRIEND ZONE remains in the FRIEND ZONE:
1. You are still in the friend zone because…
YOU ARE TOO AFRAID TO TAKE CHANCES!
Yes. You are too scared that you won’t get the response that you are expecting so you’d rather stay back and watch other guys make their way to her heart. You are always afraid that saying what you really feel because it may ruin your friendship. Hello! Yes, if she doesn’t feel the same way then it might cause a little awkwardness but if you guys are really friends then you guys will find a way back to being better friends. You just have to accept the fact that she just thinks of you as a friend and nothing more. And eventually let your feelings go and then strengthen the friendship even more. But if she likes you back then BINGO!
2. You are still in the FRIEND ZONE because…
YOU TREAT HER LIKE SHE’S ONE OF YOUR GUY FRIENDS.
Just because you want to look cool and you don’t wanther to figure out that you like her, you try your best to treat her like she is one of your bros. Calling her dude, bro, homey, and what not. Telling her about this imaginary girl that you’ve been crushing on. Teaching her the fist pump or secret handshake and all other guys stuff that you do with your boys.
Guess what??? You sure succeeded in hiding your feelings but you also succeeded in helping her cross you out in her romantic meter. Good Job!
3. You are still in the friend zone because…
YOU ALWAYS MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE FOR HER!
One call and you’ll immediately drop everything that you are doing just to attend to whatever it is that she needs. She needs someone to help her move the furnitures in her house, you’ll be there. She needs someone to look after her dog, you’ll take care of her dog. She’s having trouble with her project, you’ll volunteer to help her out… Normally, that is a good thing…. IF YOU GUYS ARE ALREADY TOGETHER. But since you guys are not together yet, you should try be a good friend sometimes learn to say no or learn how to say yes without sounding too enthusiatic about it. 🙂 In that way, you seem a little mysterious and a little unpredictable and you’ll raise her interest. REMEMBER THE GOAL IS TO MAKE YOU “HER GUY” first then be her “GO-TO GUY”. Not the other way around. 🙂
4. You are still in the friend zone because…
YOU EVEN TRY TO SET HER UP WITH ANOTHER GUY THOUGH YOUR INSTINCTS ARE TELLING YOU NOT TO.
Being a good friend that you always are, you even try setting her up with your freind that she likes or with a friend of yours who likes her. That is just totally BAT SHIT CRAZY, MEN! That’s a very uncomfortable thing to do so never everdo that! And if you already did then please do not repeat it. Again, Learn how to say no! If you can’t take the sight of her in some other guy’s arms then do not ever try to make that possible!
***There you go! I hope that helps.
In summary, to get yourself out of the FRIEND ZONE!
1. Be a MAN!
2. Summon up all the courage in the world and tell her how you feel. If she says yes then good. If she says no, then even better because now you know that you being in the friend zone is not your fault, that means she just really wants you to there and then just be friend. You will soon find someone who is willing to be your friend and much more willing to be your lover. 🙂
3. If you confess and it didn’t work out, Don’t lose hope. 🙂
Looking inside and wanting to belong,
Curled up in bed with heart beating strong.
Closed lip sighs, another pain locked away.
Vows you want to make but it was never the right day.
Taking a leap, you have been waiting for so long.
Immense in a state where heart is breaking in the sun.
Opened up yourself and wishing him to stay.
But he was never in love, he just cared anyway.
You tell yourself it’s okay. You tried to give your best shot.
But you were never okay with the fact that he loves you not.
You chose to put on a face. So determined, so willing, so brave.
But unraveling the mask, you are trapped in loneliness’s grave.
Crackling sounds of thunder is not helping your case.
Falling is a kind of blunder and believing is such a waste.
You were on the brink of giving up the love you always want.
But just before you were to cut ends loose, he extended his hand.
He reached to you and suddenly you feel no reason to be sad.
Your heart skipped a beat and you swore it was the best day you ever had.
You’re in my thoughts
but I’m alone with my doubts
There’s words in your silence
but I can’t figure it out.
You took a deep breath
while I was holding mine.
And all this time I wondered,
how can your eyes be so thine?
I glanced at you,
and now I never looked away.
Even when your not here,
you’re still the highlight of my day.
I wonder if you have someone there..
Do you think she’s the one?
At times when you need someone to be there for you,
Does she stay and hold you hand?
Maybe I just wonder about you most of the time.
I want to know how your day was.
I want to be able say goodnight.
But these things can’t happen
because I am nowhere in your sight.
Here’s my list of the kinds of guy that every girl shouldn’t look for. Maybe some of you will/will not agree with it. But thanks for still reading it.
Disclaimer: This is just my opinion and something I have wriitten due to my boredom.
And for the guys, Please don’t be offended about what’s wriitten here. I know most of you guys are not perfect but most are respectable and decent and faithful. I said MOST and NOT ALL because there some who do not posses those positive attributes and possess the opposites of it.
I hope this can serve as a guide or whatever. 🙂
1. “Mr. I am a Ladies’ Man” a.k.a. Womanizers
Yes. That’s Numero Uno on my list. There’s a diffrence with being friendly and being a womanizer. Although some guys use their friendliness as an excuse to be around girls all the time. You can differentiate womanizers to the naturally friendly ones by being observant. Womanizers are the ones who are in constant look outfor the so called “hot chicks”. They always want to be seen doing stuff that they think is cool and saying things that they thought women would like to hear. They are the ones who take every opportunity they have to be with a girl/s that’s on their radar. So if you have seen these traits to a guy you like, then I’ve got two word for you, STAY AWAY!
2. “MR. Big shot look at my car” a.k.a. The Car Slave
Yes. I get it. Guys are more passionate about cars and girls appreciate that. There’s nothing wrong with loving cars just as long as you know where the boundaties are. However, If a guy just can’t shut the hell up about his car and talks more about his car than the other stuff that you two should talk about then WALK AWAY. Clearly, that guy is more into his car than into you. Or when guys brag about their car to each other in front of you
Dude1: Yeah dude, I just got it detailed. Real sleek finish! Cost me a lot of money just in the exterior.
Dude2: I feel yah dude, I spent tons of money just in the wheels. I want it blacker than everyone else’s.
Dude1: That’s sweet! I thinking about getting a bigger engine. Bigger and noisier, blah blah.
Seriously, DON’T DATE A GUY LIKE THAT!
3. Mr. BRAG ME TO HELL a.k.a THE BRAGGERS
We all brag every once in a while but if the bragging is uncontrolable then it will be very Obnoxios and absurd. Braggers are the ones who just never stop showing off. Like they have they inflated heads to top their inflated egso. They brag about simple things like their clothes, their shoes, their sexual conquests, their manhood, their psychotic streaks and every other thing that you can think of. They even brag about their vices and misdemeanors. I don’t even need to reason out as to why you shouln’t date the braggers because the description itself can put the fire out. DON’T DATE A BRAGGER UNLESS YOU ARE AN UNCONTROLABLE BRAGGER YOURSELF. 🙂
4. Mr. Sexually Pre-Occupied a.k.a SPO
It is normal to think about sex, it is human nature. But when a guy has nothing but sex on his mind then that’s a NO-NO! If a guy tells everyone about his sexual escapades or if a guy speaks non-stop about girls in graphic terms or every time he opens his mouth words of highly sexual nature comes out of it then you shouldn’t date him, especially if you are looking for something serious and something meaningful.
5. Mr. I already said I do on the altar a.k.a the Married ones
I don’t really need to explain this as well. So if you don’t want any headaches or troubles then don’t date the married ones!
6. Mr. I accepted your shitty past so you have no right to complain a.k.a Plastics
Yes there are some guys who will use your past to make you feel bad about yourself and lower your self-esteem. They are the ones who pretend that they are really good to accept whatever it is that you’ve done in the past, Only to find out later that every time he commits a mistake,he will constantly remind you of how he accepted your past. And if you’re dating a guy like this, then here’s a reality check: HE NEVER REALLY ACCEPTED YOUR PAST AND MAYBE HE NEVER WILL. If he has accepted your past then he wouldn’t use your past against you because whatever it is that you did before you met him, he cannot hold any hard feelings about it. If he really loves you, then he should love you for who you are. 🙂
It makes me wonder what pushed the brilliant author, T.H. White, to write those hauntingly painful words. It makes me want to ask him “Who broke your heart?”.
Well, I guess I will never know why he wrote those words. But I know why I can relate to it. It seems like an arrow was shot directly to my heart. There I go again, with my sad sobby words. Anyway, I think most of us at one point in our lives experienced giving the best of our hearts to people who can’t do the same for us.
And It is such a shame when you have so much love to give but the person you intend to give it to just couldn’t take it. But that’s how love works, you may never know if your love will ever be reciprocated. That’s what’s beautiful about it, the elements of mystery and surprise.
Loving is not a walk in the park especially if the object of affection does not love you in return.
But True love means not asking for something in return. It does not involve rushing to be in a relationship and it isn’t even about just finding someone to get you through your cold nights!
True love is about learning how to wait patiently for the perfect timing and for the person perfect for you. It’s about giving and giving even more. It’s about knowing that you found that one person that you want to spend you whole life with and making him feel always loved and wanted. Its about respecting yourself and the other person.
How I wish, we could all just find true love and live happily every after, just like in the movies.
But then Again, this is real life and life is what we make it and love like you have never been hurt before.
The black and white world is now in vivid colors.
The darkness fades, and whites became vibrant.
I never knew red can be at its reddest
and that grays can turn to blue.
Everything I’m seeing now is better than before.
I look at the stars, who knew it shines brighter the sun?
I feel the wind in my face, who knew it sends shivers in my spine?
This feeling, I’m free-flowing and like everything’s sure.
This World in Vivid colors, I never thought this day would come.
When fears and insecurities all seem to be gone.
When every endings becomes new beginnings.
When you are losing yet you keep on playing.
There’s colors everywhere and it’s because…
I choose to let you go and accept the loss.
Everything’s in place except you.
You didn’t choose me and that’s my cue.
But no matter how many colors there is,
the color of your eyes will always be something that I’d miss.
but there’s nothing I can do..
This world in vivid colors simply means
its my world without you.