LIke a lovestruck teenager,
I am holding onto you.
But you don’t even know me,
you never had a clue.
About the love I feel,
Or the dreams I have inside.
You don’t even think about me,
yet you’re always in my mind.
Like a lovestruck teenager,
I’m writing letters everyday.
Though I never had the guts to send ’em to you.
But I keep on writing anyway.
About the everything I feel,
And all the love I want to give.
But you were always with someone else.
And my love, you cannot receive.
Still like a lovestruck teenager,
I am not afraid to let you know.
That your smile is my favorite vision.
and I can never let you go.
Disclaimer: I think I already mentioned this in my previous entries in case I haven’t… Let me just clarify. I am not expert ony guys and relationship and I am not even expert on my job so I am not saying that everything written here is scientifically-proven. These are just figments of my mind’s never ending battle to think and analyze the words I hear, the notes I see, and the stories that were relayed to me. I am hoping that this post help those who are experiencing this kind of situation. 🙂
You see I have been hearing and reading about guys who are always STUCK in the FRIEND ZONE. For those of you who aren’t aware of what the FRIEND ZONE means…..
It is some kind of a untangible friendship boundary of some sort that some guys really wanted to cross but they cannot. It happens when a guy likes a girl that he is good friends with and he get stuck up with this friendship wall that he cannot even tell her how he feels and the girl doesn’t even have a clue that he likes her. To her, he is just a good friend that is always there for her and any idea of romance does not even cross her mind. She just never really thinks of him in a romantic way and the guy pretends that he doesn’t think of her in that way as well, but he is only fooling himself. He just stays friends with her though he wanted to be more than that, hence, the friend zone.
In short, the guys in the friend zone are always the “GOOD GUY FRIENDS” but never the ones that the girls fall for.
Here are the reasons that I can think of why guys in the FRIEND ZONE remains in the FRIEND ZONE:
1. You are still in the friend zone because…
YOU ARE TOO AFRAID TO TAKE CHANCES!
Yes. You are too scared that you won’t get the response that you are expecting so you’d rather stay back and watch other guys make their way to her heart. You are always afraid that saying what you really feel because it may ruin your friendship. Hello! Yes, if she doesn’t feel the same way then it might cause a little awkwardness but if you guys are really friends then you guys will find a way back to being better friends. You just have to accept the fact that she just thinks of you as a friend and nothing more. And eventually let your feelings go and then strengthen the friendship even more. But if she likes you back then BINGO!
2. You are still in the FRIEND ZONE because…
YOU TREAT HER LIKE SHE’S ONE OF YOUR GUY FRIENDS.
Just because you want to look cool and you don’t wanther to figure out that you like her, you try your best to treat her like she is one of your bros. Calling her dude, bro, homey, and what not. Telling her about this imaginary girl that you’ve been crushing on. Teaching her the fist pump or secret handshake and all other guys stuff that you do with your boys.
Guess what??? You sure succeeded in hiding your feelings but you also succeeded in helping her cross you out in her romantic meter. Good Job!
3. You are still in the friend zone because…
YOU ALWAYS MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE FOR HER!
One call and you’ll immediately drop everything that you are doing just to attend to whatever it is that she needs. She needs someone to help her move the furnitures in her house, you’ll be there. She needs someone to look after her dog, you’ll take care of her dog. She’s having trouble with her project, you’ll volunteer to help her out… Normally, that is a good thing…. IF YOU GUYS ARE ALREADY TOGETHER. But since you guys are not together yet, you should try be a good friend sometimes learn to say no or learn how to say yes without sounding too enthusiatic about it. 🙂 In that way, you seem a little mysterious and a little unpredictable and you’ll raise her interest. REMEMBER THE GOAL IS TO MAKE YOU “HER GUY” first then be her “GO-TO GUY”. Not the other way around. 🙂
4. You are still in the friend zone because…
YOU EVEN TRY TO SET HER UP WITH ANOTHER GUY THOUGH YOUR INSTINCTS ARE TELLING YOU NOT TO.
Being a good friend that you always are, you even try setting her up with your freind that she likes or with a friend of yours who likes her. That is just totally BAT SHIT CRAZY, MEN! That’s a very uncomfortable thing to do so never everdo that! And if you already did then please do not repeat it. Again, Learn how to say no! If you can’t take the sight of her in some other guy’s arms then do not ever try to make that possible!
***There you go! I hope that helps.
In summary, to get yourself out of the FRIEND ZONE!
1. Be a MAN!
2. Summon up all the courage in the world and tell her how you feel. If she says yes then good. If she says no, then even better because now you know that you being in the friend zone is not your fault, that means she just really wants you to there and then just be friend. You will soon find someone who is willing to be your friend and much more willing to be your lover. 🙂
3. If you confess and it didn’t work out, Don’t lose hope. 🙂
Looking inside and wanting to belong,
Curled up in bed with heart beating strong.
Closed lip sighs, another pain locked away.
Vows you want to make but it was never the right day.
Taking a leap, you have been waiting for so long.
Immense in a state where heart is breaking in the sun.
Opened up yourself and wishing him to stay.
But he was never in love, he just cared anyway.
You tell yourself it’s okay. You tried to give your best shot.
But you were never okay with the fact that he loves you not.
You chose to put on a face. So determined, so willing, so brave.
But unraveling the mask, you are trapped in loneliness’s grave.
Crackling sounds of thunder is not helping your case.
Falling is a kind of blunder and believing is such a waste.
You were on the brink of giving up the love you always want.
But just before you were to cut ends loose, he extended his hand.
He reached to you and suddenly you feel no reason to be sad.
Your heart skipped a beat and you swore it was the best day you ever had.
Truth to be told,
I need you to hold.
My Hand, My Heart.
When can we even start?
Truth to be said,
You piled up in my head.
Your smile, Your skin.
My defenses are turning thin.
That’s the truth locked inside of me.
I am already setting it free.
Now that you have it in your hands…
Are you going to tell me, Where I should stand?
It makes me wonder what pushed the brilliant author, T.H. White, to write those hauntingly painful words. It makes me want to ask him “Who broke your heart?”.
Well, I guess I will never know why he wrote those words. But I know why I can relate to it. It seems like an arrow was shot directly to my heart. There I go again, with my sad sobby words. Anyway, I think most of us at one point in our lives experienced giving the best of our hearts to people who can’t do the same for us.
And It is such a shame when you have so much love to give but the person you intend to give it to just couldn’t take it. But that’s how love works, you may never know if your love will ever be reciprocated. That’s what’s beautiful about it, the elements of mystery and surprise.
Loving is not a walk in the park especially if the object of affection does not love you in return.
But True love means not asking for something in return. It does not involve rushing to be in a relationship and it isn’t even about just finding someone to get you through your cold nights!
True love is about learning how to wait patiently for the perfect timing and for the person perfect for you. It’s about giving and giving even more. It’s about knowing that you found that one person that you want to spend you whole life with and making him feel always loved and wanted. Its about respecting yourself and the other person.
How I wish, we could all just find true love and live happily every after, just like in the movies.
But then Again, this is real life and life is what we make it and love like you have never been hurt before.
The black and white world is now in vivid colors.
The darkness fades, and whites became vibrant.
I never knew red can be at its reddest
and that grays can turn to blue.
Everything I’m seeing now is better than before.
I look at the stars, who knew it shines brighter the sun?
I feel the wind in my face, who knew it sends shivers in my spine?
This feeling, I’m free-flowing and like everything’s sure.
This World in Vivid colors, I never thought this day would come.
When fears and insecurities all seem to be gone.
When every endings becomes new beginnings.
When you are losing yet you keep on playing.
There’s colors everywhere and it’s because…
I choose to let you go and accept the loss.
Everything’s in place except you.
You didn’t choose me and that’s my cue.
But no matter how many colors there is,
the color of your eyes will always be something that I’d miss.
but there’s nothing I can do..
This world in vivid colors simply means
its my world without you.
Yesterday was my day-off. So I did what I really do best when I don’t have any important things to do:
I bummed around the house and watch as many movies as I can. I ran out of movies to watch so I decided to watch something that I already seen a few years back ———— SYDNEY WHITE!
For those of you who have no idea what this movie is, It’s kinda a modern version of SNOW WHITE.
Sydney White (Amanda Bynes) is an 18-year old girl who is raised by her dad. Her mom died when she was 9 and her dad with the help of his construction worker friends were the ones that was there for her. She goes to college and was supposed to pledge to her Mom’s old sorority but then things didn’t turn out as she planned and she ended up living with 7 interesting dorks who are currently on the verge of losing their house. Subsequently, because of her all-natural, no false pretenses attitude, the most popular guy on campus, Tyler Prince (Matt Long) fell in love with her much to the dismay of the reighning queen bee greek president Rachel Witchburn (Sara Paxton).
But that’s not point of this blog entry.
I’m writing this because I’m curious, DOES THAT KIND OF STUFF HAPPEN IN REAL LIFE?
Can a guy really fall for a girl who doesn’t fit in? Who doesn’t act gracefully and who doesn’t know the right things to say? Do guys like that reslly fall for a girl who has a great personality and a big heart?
Guys are pretty complicated beings. I’m sure all guys are saying the same thing about girls. We were never an expert on each other.
So where can we find a guy who just doesn’t give damn about how you look and dress? Where can we find someone who doesn’t care that you say all the wrong things in all the wrong times when you are with him? Where can we find someone who can see the real us and doesn’t turn his back? Where can we find someone who can love us for exactly what we are?
If someone knew the answers to this questions then probably that someone is bombarded by people who wants to find that kind of love. But unfortunately, no one knew the answer to this questions. I guess we need to find the answers within ourselves.
Times like this, I wished my life will be like a movie. When a guy just shows up out nowhere in my time of despair and he’ll just take me away from it all. Oh no! IT’s OFFICIAL! I’m definitely a HOPELESS ROMANTIC! Or MAYBE HOPELESS alone.
But seriously, I wished to get the happy ending that I’ve been dreaming and praying about. And I hope someday, I would stop writing about how I am envious of the things that I see in films, and start writing about how I met my true love.. But since my TRUE LOVE is MIA. then you guys are stuck with my random rants and I’m stuck with my thoughts. 🙂